Ending It Sometimes Is the Best Move - A Guide For Women About Men and Marriage

       Men and women are responding with how the society dictates them when it comes to relationships and marriage. Women, even on a first date, seek in their dates as a permanent partner for life. They presume their date's right away the man of their lives and father of their future child. Women are so hooked to their fairy tales that they dream of a happy ending in most of their dates.


       However, man respond in a quite different manner. Most of them, find companion first before commitment. They tend to test the waters first before plunging and committing in a relationship. This is why we see a lot of them only adhering to dates for a long time before committing. And when they finally decide to marry, he is someone seen as losing his freedom.
This scenario may not be true to all men and women, but it gives us vital learning to choose well our partners. Women has to accept that his man is a unique human being. His views on relationship may have stormed from the kind of family he has. Women have to understand the uniqueness of this man and where her man's idea of love and commitment is coming. Assuming right away that her man thinks like she does is very dangerous. It will lead to false assumptions resulting to more problems in the relationship.


         Women, has to know if her man respects her need of commitment. These will bring problems for the couples if not resolved. The women will keep being faithful to the relationship while her man remains avoidable to discussions of committing seriously and settling down. If women are into these kind of relationships, the best way is to get out of the relationship, no matter how painful it may seem. The women will always be left waiting and wondering when his man will get the idea of settling down, and this is more degrading and hurting to women.


         Getting married will not even answer these problems. Women jump to marrying decisions in the hope of turning their man into a person who finally values commitment. Marrying without reconciling the couple's differences will only give more problems than happiness to the couple. Unless, the couple has a healthy relationship, then they should refrain marrying. Marriage is not something you push to your partner in the hope of having a happy ending with your partner. Marriage is a decision made out of love and readiness to share lives with. Love, trust, honesty, and respect should be the foundation of this union. Couples are suppose to complement each other, and relationships bring out the best in every couple. If the couple is not even ready to talk about marriage, then they should not get married.


         If you are in a rocky relationship, reflect on your ideas of relationship. If you are different from your boyfriend, then do not settle your own preferences for him right away. You are worth every love and respect, and commitment. And if your boyfriend is not the type who can give you that, then you have to accept that difference and put an end to the line. Women are stronger individuals that they think they are. If your partner in not giving you what you want then there will always be another person who can give you what you know you deserve.

YOUR TALK : It Matters

Patience is a virtue...that's what they say all the time..but there are instances that it's too damn hard to be patient. I had an encounter today with a person, who apparently was just doing his job ...for asking us our intentions to visit a place. It could have been okay, but what would you do if they make you feel that you're a no good person whose only purpose is to malign him and his job.

          And he could have just said to my aunt, the one who was  driving...to just pull over where there was shade and asked for an ID. He could have just addressed us nicely.

        Maybe it was because of the heat of the sun..that i just blurted out without hesitation. The anger was too hard to contain..that patience was somehow a stranger to me.

        Then again..it just proved to me that doing your job well includes being able to communicate nicely. I have always expected that to a lot of people, even if my beau says it shouldn't be the case.. that not all people have that prowess..


          I yet that i have to accept that fact.

5 Secrets to Keep from Him

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5 SECRETS TO KEEP FROM HIM
Oversharing can actually hurt your bond. here, what should stay on the low.
BY: Bethany Heitman


You tell your guy a ton, but it's a myth that divulging every detail equals a healthier union. "Even though you're part of a twosome, your relationship will thrive if you maintain a private side," says Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD, coauthor ofThe Introvert and Extrovert in Love. "Plus, some things might hurt your partner, so keeping them quiet prevents needless stress on your bond." Top relationship experts agree on the five most important secrets to keep from your guy.

1. Past Hookups 
He knows you didn't spend your days in a convent pre-him, but that doesn't mean he wants mental images of you getting frisky with old flames. Men may ask about other dudes, but what they're fishing to hear is that they're the best. Avoid lying by not answering questions about your sexual past. When he does dig, tell him he's the only one you can think about in bed.

2. How You Spend Your Money 
As long as you don't share funds, your boyfriend doesn't need to know where your dough goes. It stresses out guys to see you buy things they deem unnecessary — like clothes or shoes. The quick fix: When he compliments a dress, don't give him the rundown on where you got it and how much it cost. And if he asks, tell him it was waaay less than the big-screen TV he splurged on.

3. The Way You Feel About His Family 
Warning: Dissing his clan will do damage to your relationship. So even if his mom is Queen Bitch, keep your mouth shut. The minute you say something slightly negative, he will feel like you're making him choose between you and them and resent you for it. If they're truly awful, avoid being around them whenever you can.

4. Innocent Flirtations 
You love your guy, but that doesn't mean you can't chat up other men. In fact, being flirty is healthy as long as it doesn't go further. It may be tempting to brag that you still get male attention, especially if you feel your guy takes you for granted, but telling him about the neighbor who checks out your ass is just going to make him feel insecure. Keep quiet, and take pleasure in the fact that you've still got it going on.

5. What You Really Think of His Gift 
You're bound to get a few doozies from your guy. Instead of slamming him, find one good thing about each present. Men aren't superexpressive, so a gift is their way of saying they care. If you reject it, you reject him. Next time, drop hints so he gets you something you like — for example, mention a store you love.